"My primary relationship is with myself- all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically receive the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am committed to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment. My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another. As I learn to love myself, I receive the love I desire from others." Shakti Gawain
How much time have you spent on your own? Independent and outside of the parameters of relationship? Just as avoiding intimate relationships or being fearful of commitment are strategies of the ego, so is the tactic of clinging to "relationship" rather than deepening your relationship with yourself. Most people are shaped into who they are told to be by family, school, society.... and then move quickly into relationships. As easy as it is to avoid growth by avoiding intimacy, it's equally as easy to hide from your TRUE self in relationship.
The beauty of developing a deep relationship with yourself independently is that you can heal your deepest wounds and prepare yourself before entering into a spiritual relationship, one that is free of the baggage of a partner projecting their mother wound, abandonment wound, father wound onto you.
When you love yourself unconditionally, it is only possible to attract others who have healed their own deepest wounds, or who have a total awareness of what their wounds are, take ownership of them, and don't project them onto you.
Many women face the subtle and sometimes not so subtle, projections of the mother wound from their partners. They experience the buried resentment that hides beneath the unhealed male's anger, aggression, sarcasm, emotional unavailability, addiction to pornography, and/or passive-aggressiveness. It could also be pain manifested in the male as a passive and subdued male unsure of his own Divine Masculine power.
But since the human brain filters all experiences to "comply" with stories and scenarios we are already familiar with, the wounds being projected within the relationship will make the woman question herself. They will cause her to change her truth, modify her true nature, subdue her power, relinquish her creative force.... because those actions are what she is accustomed to. Those actions are what she has been doing since childhood....since being told by society to "cover up", "hide your body", "be quiet".
Take the time to develop your primary relationship - the one with yourself. Love yourself unconditionally. FREE YOURSELF.... and awaken to your Divine Feminine Empowerment. There are some incredible awakening or awakened males out there. Divine Partnerships can heal this world. Don't settle for anything less. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ ~ Liana