You are not being punished. You are not being put through some series of great tests and challenges because God wants to make you stronger. Each of us is living in a world, a country, a family, and a body, that is designed EXACTLY to meet the needs of our soul.
The more of your own light you embrace, the more authentic you become. And the more authentic you become the more authentic and light-filled people you will find in your world. You will resonate with them and they with you. You will mutually support, uplift and add joy, strength, peace and love to each others lives. This is an incredible blessing and something to rejoice over.
The circumstances of our lives are projections of what we focus on and what we believe. But often what we have called to us doesn't seem to be what we think we want. We may look at our lives and say "I didn't want it to be like this." The reason this happens is because we are unconscious to the laws of the Universe - in particular the law of attraction. I don't know if I've ever seen a more misunderstood law.