Boundaries. We hear advice all the time to "set boundaries" for ourselves with loved ones, with friends, with our work, basically with everything. And generally speaking, most people will nod in agreement at the importance of boundary setting. But do you truly understand
Throughout our lives we often pick up beliefs about others and ourselves that do nothing more than distract us from our healing. One of the most powerful beliefs is what I call the badge of "I'm a good person". This can be a painful
Simple, but not always easy. True healing involves the ability to go to the places of our deepest woundings, be with the pain, and then allow the pain to move through our body and mind. Feeling the emotions fully and not holding on to them.
It takes conscious effort and time for most people, to examine the core archetypal wounds: Mother Wound, Father Wound, Abandonment and Rejection Wound, and to understand how your inner child is acting out those wounds in EVERY context of your life.
The ultimate healing comes when we truly love ourselves. But it's a phrase thrown around so much that it has lost meaning, and now is borderline cliche without meaning. It's important to first understand, that not everyone wants to love themselves. That can be hard to grasp, but it is true.
In shamanic work the questions of ego and its place come up for every single student. There is confusion. What is the ego? Don’t we need one? Isn’t it important to have a healthy ego so we can promote ourselves and be proud of who we are? Why all this talk about killing the ego, isn’t that crazy? If God meant for us not to have an ego she wouldn’t have given us one, right?
My primary relationship is with myself- all others are mirrors of it. As I learn to love myself, I automatically recieve the love and appreciation that I desire from others. If I am commited to myself and to living my truth, I will attract others with equal commitment. My willingness to be intimate with my own deep feelings creates the space for intimacy with another. As I learn to love myself, I recieve the love I desire from others."